There's No School Teach How to be A Good Parents

I remembered  a sentence from a movie, “ There’s no school to teach how to be a good father. I’m really sorry If I made a mistake that hurting your heart ” (Operational Wedding). Really touching, eh? I think all of us would agree with that statement. I knew, how to be a parent was such as difficult things. Some people could give a tip in that matter, but for me it just empties tips. We had a different type of children. Thus, the treatment was not same anymore. One thing that really important between parents and children was their presence.

          You should look after your children with more attention, listened to their stories and showed some enthusiasm and respond as well. Thus, they felt that their parents had some respect. Otherwise, a lot of Indonesian families still used a rude word when they got angry, even they’re slapping or hitting their kids was common, Could you imagined? That very terrible, wasn’t it? Honestly, when I wrote this, it kind of sensitive ‘cause it remain me about my childhood, not really good though. I’ve got it once, still remember how was it felt. I didn’t know why did my mom slapping my cheek, slapping a 9 yo girl. I cried, but no one cared about me even my father, he closed his eyes. Not trying to comfort me, but ignore me instead. I always asked to myself “Is she really my mother?” Yes, I woke up, she is my mother but I hope not. This was what I’m thinking after I got that slap. Still couldn’t forget ‘till I die perhaps.

          The only person who cares me is my aunt. I was pretending her as my mother, she has been looking after me since I was 3 years old. She always made me a milk and slept beside me like the real mom. In fact, when I wanted to sleep I was looking for my auntie not my mom and I was crying when my real mom slept beside me. She was kind of strange for me. That’s what I meant about presence. I hope you understand with my real experience.

          Yeah, another example about this matter. When I was in elementary school my parents used to distinguish me among my sisters. They never believed that I had special thing and pretending I am the stupidest in my family. I realized it, but I also regret when I made a mistake that got my parents angry, they usually use rude words and seemed all right to use that to their children without thinking if they hurt their kids. Parents must find out the solution to solve the problem in a family without any fighting, without making the children crying. Try to understand what the problem is and asked for them. Besides that, parents should say “SORRY” when they made a mistake too. Children was not only who made a mistake. Don’t be selfish and shy to say sorry, even though you’re the parents. Don’t you know? If your children keep a angry to you, someday perhaps, they will take a revenge for their parents. Who knows?

          Be wise when you say and act, they will remember it forever. Parents must introspection, you can’t blame when your children really did it. It’s all start with you. The last words, I know, there’s no perfect children, no perfect parents, and no perfect families. Although they did a bad things that might hurt you, but keep loving them whoever they were.