There's No School Teach How to be A Good Parents

I remembered  a sentence from a movie, “ There’s no school to teach how to be a good father. I’m really sorry If I made a mistake that hurting your heart ” (Operational Wedding). Really touching, eh? I think all of us would agree with that statement. I knew, how to be a parent was such as difficult things. Some people could give a tip in that matter, but for me it just empties tips. We had a different type of children. Thus, the treatment was not same anymore. One thing that really important between parents and children was their presence.

          You should look after your children with more attention, listened to their stories and showed some enthusiasm and respond as well. Thus, they felt that their parents had some respect. Otherwise, a lot of Indonesian families still used a rude word when they got angry, even they’re slapping or hitting their kids was common, Could you imagined? That very terrible, wasn’t it? Honestly, when I wrote this, it kind of sensitive ‘cause it remain me about my childhood, not really good though. I’ve got it once, still remember how was it felt. I didn’t know why did my mom slapping my cheek, slapping a 9 yo girl. I cried, but no one cared about me even my father, he closed his eyes. Not trying to comfort me, but ignore me instead. I always asked to myself “Is she really my mother?” Yes, I woke up, she is my mother but I hope not. This was what I’m thinking after I got that slap. Still couldn’t forget ‘till I die perhaps.

          The only person who cares me is my aunt. I was pretending her as my mother, she has been looking after me since I was 3 years old. She always made me a milk and slept beside me like the real mom. In fact, when I wanted to sleep I was looking for my auntie not my mom and I was crying when my real mom slept beside me. She was kind of strange for me. That’s what I meant about presence. I hope you understand with my real experience.

          Yeah, another example about this matter. When I was in elementary school my parents used to distinguish me among my sisters. They never believed that I had special thing and pretending I am the stupidest in my family. I realized it, but I also regret when I made a mistake that got my parents angry, they usually use rude words and seemed all right to use that to their children without thinking if they hurt their kids. Parents must find out the solution to solve the problem in a family without any fighting, without making the children crying. Try to understand what the problem is and asked for them. Besides that, parents should say “SORRY” when they made a mistake too. Children was not only who made a mistake. Don’t be selfish and shy to say sorry, even though you’re the parents. Don’t you know? If your children keep a angry to you, someday perhaps, they will take a revenge for their parents. Who knows?

          Be wise when you say and act, they will remember it forever. Parents must introspection, you can’t blame when your children really did it. It’s all start with you. The last words, I know, there’s no perfect children, no perfect parents, and no perfect families. Although they did a bad things that might hurt you, but keep loving them whoever they were. 

                    

Life Without No One is Around

I got Soft Skill course on my second term in college. This is my first time I learn about Soft skills. At first, I thought that we didn’t really need soft skills in our life, but when Miss Endang told a story about her experiences. I realized that we need to pay attention with around, of course our attitude is important.

We are living in social life, every day we interact with other people. That’s why we must have a good behavior or politeness. This is a simple example that we can learn something from it. Tammy is a really smart girl, she is beautiful as well. At school, she is always being number one, the famous one. She can do anything that she wants to. One day, her teacher asked her to be a leader of a team of class in school event. Could you guess? Exactly she failed, her team is the worst among the others. Why did it happen? It causes she doesn’t have any respect to the others. She thinks that she always right, never want to criticize by others. She pretends all of her friends is dumb because she is the number one. She can do anything without any help from somebody else. She prefers to work by herself, only herself. That’s why she can’t socialize and coordinate her team. She doesn’t know how to behave well in front of the people. Her appearance not as well as her words.

So, what we can learn from it? Although we have a beauty or handsome faces, but if we can’t respect others, they won’t respect us as well. Otherwise, if we did, they will help us when we need any helps. Honestly, I feel that’s the story is the real one. I met someone that has behavior like that. In fact, we can see the arrogance when they speak with their body language. Very annoying!!! But one thing, that we must remember is the first sight  is really important. Mostly, people will guess our character in first met and I think our behavior also contributed in our carrier. If we can build a relationship with somebody else nicely, they will trust us in any matter.